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Hello stroker boys! As many of you know, I’m a very adventurous fem dom mistress who enjoys any and all tools I can add to my arsenal of pleasure/pain. I’ve long been an advocate of bdsm implements on the cheap, meaning of course things you can find inside your house… or even your own backyard. One of those tools is the nasty little plant called the stinging nettle. Before we begin on the history and usage, I’ll give the usual safety warnings. It’s always a good idea to do a spot test on your wrist before you take it, uhm… downstairs, lol. Make sure you aren’t allergic… and that you have the actual plant, urtica diocia. There are several different types found in all parts of the world including Europe, North America and Asia. Good to go? Then let’s begin exploring what could be a very unique bdsm phone sex experience.

Ancient literature from Roman times mentions this plant in bdsm usage with mentions of unruly soldiers being punished “below the navel” with stinging nettles. The English used it to encourage prized bulls to mate… and of course, those deliciously inventive Victorians used it for the same purpose we’ll be using it… to torture the cock and balls of submissives both in punishment and play. Urtication, along with “birching” and ginger figging, were common forms of torment during the Victorian era. For those who think our ancestors were sticks in the mud, just think of the kinky legacy they’ve left us!

You can identify this plant easily by it’s toothy, serrated edges of it’s leaves. They grow in groupings of two, back to back against their stem. The backs of the leaves themselves are covered with fine, sticky white hairs which make up the stinging part. The best time to gather stinging nettles is in the spring, so you have plenty of time to research and hunt some down. You should use rubber gloves when gathering your treasures as to avoid irritation to areas that aren’t quite as fun as your genitals. No use wasting your fun sexual humiliation tool with stinging hands!

Those tiny white hairs on the backs of the leaves act as tiny needles that when pressed and rolled against sensitive flesh will cause irritation. You should carefully apply it with gloved hands. I’ve used these delightfully torturous leaves in the underwear of submissives so they can feel the burn for extended periods. I’ve also used them before a nice, hard spanking or caning. Used in conjunction with a ginger fig before a caning can be a quite interesting bdsm experience for advanced submissive males.

In the next few days I’ll be posting an audio story featuring stinging nettles as part of a cock and ball torture scene including some deliciously nasty punishments and pleasures. Stay tuned for a link… and while you wait, entertain yourself with my blog and audios… well, if you haven’t already. As always, I’m eager to consult you on your bdsm regieme. I’m sure you’re as excited to explore new and exciting ways to humiliate yourself for my pleasure… and yours, of course.

Empress Lauren
1-800-356-6169
empress.lauren@yahoo.com

I’ve been focusing a lot on expensive, kinky toys, but I realize that many of you are on a cock and ball torture budget… hell you have to be to afford my very personal phone domination services, lol. So I’m going to give you some secret frugal tips so we might enjoy very special, sadistic sessions. It’s amazing the things you can get at Wal-Mart or your local hardware. I’m sure you know some tricks like paint stirrers for paddles, both the thin, springy kind and the thicker, more harsh version you can pick up at Lowe’s… but of course they bare repeating. As do binder clamps from the office supply and clothespins from the laundry session. Also there’s loads of fun to be had with soy based candles, wooden spoons and even the strings from your shoes.

But the kitchen section, a place most men avoid, has a treasure trove of cock and ball torture implements to satisfy even the most discerning phone sex masochists. I believe I’ve mentioned meat tenderizers before, the spiky mallet head is perfect for ballbusting fun. And ginger root causes a very submissive, pleasure/pain sensation when used on your genitals or anally. Cream of Tartar also causes a very nice itch, but don’t use too much. Lemon squeezers are fun, I’m sure you know where I’d apply them, lol… along with nutcrackers. Bamboo skewers, chopsticks, chip clips for bags… all these things can be used my an inventive dominatrix like myself to force such beautiful suffering.

Abrasion play is also a passion of mine. I’ve taken strips of sandpaper, fine grit of course, and placed it in bras I’ve made sissy sluts wear. They tell me it rubs their nipples raw gradually over the course of the day inciting feelings of submissive male stroker lust and devotion each time the paper shifts over their hardened buds. Sandpaper rubbed gently on the balls also elicits a delicious response.

More to come of course… I’m sure that’s enough excitement for you little painsluts today… But if not, you can always call me. I do so enjoy hearing and watching your charming physical and mental reactions to the pain I entice you to inflict on my behalf.

Empress Lauren
1-800-356-6169
empress.lauren@yahoo.com

Most people equate BDSM sex with kinky sexual practices they aren’t really sure about… they just KNOW that no decent person would do it… well, except their neighbors, their kid’s school teacher, that nice lady who sells cookies at church bake sales, etc. The fact is, most vanilla flavored people have no idea about BDSM at all. They think whips and chains, some guy on Jerry Springer being lead around like a dog by a dominatrix wannabe, scarred and bleeding backs from the kiss of a whip and a million and one other incorrect cliches. Truth is, with the turn of the century, many, young and old have thrown off the shackles of stereotypical bdsm play and made up their own rules.

The B part stands for bondage, obviously. Though not every practitioner likes to be tied up, there’s a certain eroticism about it. The feeling of being helpless, exposed, immobile… well it gives some the feeling their body is not their own, but belongs instead to their Master or Mistress. While vanilla people might scoff at the idea a submissive would find empowerment in bondage, I say don’t knock it until you try it. Not every bdsm game ends in pain. Bondage is the perfect tease and denial tool, driving the willing victim crazy with longing. Trust plays a big part in this type of scene as you don’t exactly let strangers bind you. Not only that, but being the lone nude man in a room full of clothed women is enough to excite men who have the barest of CFNM fantasies!

D stands for discipline, what squicks many. Discipline can be anything from a harsh word, a quick correction, light paddling or full on flogging. The implements used are many and varied, just look around your house. Wooden spatulas, paint stirrers, binder clamps, hell, a creative disciplinarian can walk in a hardware store and purchase things to torture some lucky soul all night! But don’t worry, the beauty of bdsm is both parties are extremely willing. Not only that, but tease and denial play a huge part as well, the anticiapation of the pleasure/pain often outweighs the orgasm itself!

Which brings me to the S & M part. S stands for Sadism, named for the eighteenth century libertine, the Marquis De Sade. Though he had a wild reputation, most of it well deserved, many of his bdsm themed books were thinly veiled political satire of his day. Sadism is sexual pleasure obtained from the suffering of others. If one is playing with a masochist, this can be an extremely rewarding experience…

Now on to the M, masochism. Masochism is taking delight and sexual pleasure in pain. It can be spanking, whipping, nipple torture, cbt, mind fuckery and the list goes on and on. What sets the masochist apart is his/her love for the endorphins released at the peak of pain/ pleasure. The term was coined in the nineteenth century by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch who wrote the brilliant Venus in Furs.

Point is, explore the whys and the hows of your sexuality. Research, find the triggers that arouse you. Educate yourself rather than just expecting generic bdsm domination games. Trust me, you’ll be glad you took the time to do so.

Empress Lauren
1-800-356-6169
1.99/minute with a 10 minute minimum
empress.lauren@yahoo.com

I’m quite a believer in contrasts, hence my fascination with pain and pleasure. Ask any painslut and they’ll tell you they’re one and the same. When the endorphins start flooding your system, pain makes the pleasure of your submission so very intense, more intense than a mere blowjob or vanilla roll in the hay. True, those activities activate the pleasure centers of your brain, but not to the degree even a little pain will add. Anyone who’s ever been the least bit involved in bdsm phone sex knows this. Sometimes the pain overwhelms your pleasure centers and leaves you panting and writhing with lust, more excited, more orgasmic than you’ve ever been… not from the pleasure, but from the sweet rush of pain that you feel all over.

Is it any wonder I just adore cbt phone sex? There’s something so very hot about controlling the pace of pain a boy feels under my cruel control. I love to taunt and tease while he clamps those clothespins on his nuts and nipples. I love the sweet way they beg when blood flow overwhelms their cock bondage and the ties become uncomfortably erotic and that man meat swells and bucks in anticipation for what’s coming next. It’s even better when I make him spread his legs wide and I trample his balls or kick them hard. Ballbusting is a hobby of mine, lol. Not only do I enjoy this special brand of pain, but the erotic humiliation it provides the male submissive. Out of control, out of options and loving every single second.

Another of my favorite fantasies involves castration. I have no clue why… maybe because as a farm girl I witnessed the annual ritual of gelding horses and castrating pigs. My father taught me how to use an elastrator when I was young and I assisted occasionally in emasculating the hogs or bulls. It was so very much fun. As I got older, I wondered often how it would work on a man. Cutting off the blood flow makes the testicles atrophy, so easy to slice after with little pain. Of course, cauterization often left those partially male animals squeal. These kinky niche fetishes excite me, the more extreme the better. How would it make you feel?

But anyway, enough to scare you boys, lol. Let’s face it, I’m a true sadistic mistress who enjoys male suffering in whatever form it takes. Does that excite you, repulse you or just make you crave my voice on the line wondering what I’d do to you to make you ache with that same pleasure pain. No apologies, that’s just me… and you know you love me, lol, in spite of or because of the sadism that drives me to become the most sadistic fem dom you’ve ever had the pleasure to submit to. Are you game? I know I am…

Empress Lauren
1-800-356-6169
empress.lauren@yahoo.com

 

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Do you boys know how much I enjoy bending you over and breaking you to my will? Of course those who’ve made their asses available for my big strap on cock do. See, when it’s a man behind you, he understands what he’s doing to you simply because he can feel you clench… it makes a strap on fuck much more brutal. See, I don’t have any feeling in this thing so I’m really not responsible for the pain I inflict, lol. Of course, I do feel you clenching your cheeks as I dip too deeply, but it excites me… it forces the base of the dildo against my clitoris. And that, little bitch boy, is the exact sensation that I crave.

This is the real battle of the sexes, penetrator vs. penetratee… and it’s a hard adjustment for you, isn’t it? You carry your cock around like a weapon, proof of your masculinity, your ability to protect yourself from violation. A big plastic prick up your ass being thrust there by a beautiful woman must feel humiliating. Or does it liberate you from the sexual sterotypes that poison both male and female sexuality? Do you find something freeing in giving your will, your power, your body to a superior woman?

Just something to ponder, I suppose. I’m sure there’s a million and one reasons boys like you love strap on phone sex. Maybe it’s just the sensation, so many nerve  endings packed into such a tiny little place… maybe it’s the total power exchange, the gender fuck, the humiliation of violation… doesn’t really matter to me in the end, in your end, lol. I want to know why of course, how better to get inside that head of yours? But more than anything, my motivation for fucking your ass is pure pleasure on my part. I fuck, therefore I am, lol.

Empress Lauren
1-800-356-6169
empress.lauren@yahoo.com

The lovely Mistress Vivian had a great idea for multi Mistress blog posts. For this week’s posting, she chose our favorite phone sex roleplay scenarios. Though I have several, the general tone of a Villainess Fantasy intrigues me. I love it when a caller asks me NOT to restrain myself and fully develop my wicked Femme Fatale side. A recent caller wished for me to indulge in a capture and bdsm fantasy, complete with gloating villainy. Being both deviant and depraved, I was happy to oblige.

Mistress dressed herself in black leather from head to toe, then followed you to the bar. You were looking over your shoulder, suspecting someone had been stalking you for weeks. You look relieved when you join the crowd at the bar. After all, who’s going to get you there? You’re perfectly safe… at least until Mistress arrives. You can’t take your eyes off her, fascinated by the sense of “other” about her. Your fem dom fetish wet dreams are filled with leather clad beauties just like her. You’ve been drawing them for years and wanking to your creations. She’s tall, lithe, moves like a jungle cat in her thigh high black leather boots you find yourself so willing to worship… You’re suprised when she zeroes directly in on you at the bar. Women like Mistress don’t notice you… not until tonight. And something about her seems sooo familiar.

She smells of danger and sex arousing you instantly, though you haven’t spoke, haven’t touched. You try to speak, but her finger rises to your lips… shhhh… don’t talk. You know who I am, you made me. You drew me and through your repeated offerings of semen, you made me real. I’ve been watching you, wanting you. I know what you need…. of course she does… You take another drink, enraptured by Mistress. Your mind flows to all the depraved things your masturbated to while you were creating her and you wonder if she knows. You look to Her eyes as you sip your drink and realize yes, yes she does. Then you start feeling funny, your head spinning and she’s smiling. Don’t worry, I’ll take care of you. Mistress knows just what you need, slave boy.

You awaken to find her standing over you, gloating. She’s smiling and you sense the danger in it. You try to move, but find you’re not only strapped down, but naked and rather than fearing it, you revel in it. I knew you’d like it, she says, just like in your fantasy. All tied up and at my mercy…. what should I start with? Maybe I should torture you a bit? But what first? I know you love it when I tease your nipples, when I pinch them gently at first, then tweak them hard and clamp them. Doesn’t that feel nice, slave boy? Good. Now your cock… I know how much you adore cock and ball torture and you’re rock hard already. I hope you don’t think you’ll be getting relief tonight, slave boy…

More tomorrow, lol….

Empress Lauren, Fem Dom Mistress
1-800-356-6169
1.99/minute with a 10 minute minimum
empress.lauren@yahoo.com

 

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Guess who’s the featured Mistress at MayICum.com today? Of course it’s yours truly, the Divine Empress Lauren… your Fem Dom Phone Sex Goddess! Guided masturbation is a very rewarding endeavor for me. The rush of power I get while controlling the movement of your hand on your throbbing cock elates me. Knowing your hand is the force of my will, stroking, teasing and ultimately deciding if you’re worthy of an orgasm. Some are… most aren’t. Orgasm denial or restriction leaves you edgy, horny, unfulfilled and eager to tease yourself to the edge again and again… at my behest, of course. Guiding your orgasm gives me the thrill of control while you suffer at my whims… and love each and every second of it!

I’ve also been pondering a series of posts with homemade bdsm gear tips. For those in a small town or on a budget, a wild imagination can save you tons of bucks on everything from paddles and clamps to cock and ball torture equipment. I’ll be taking requests for fetishes. Email me or PM me on Yahoo with suggestions for topics… examples would be for the CBT fetishist, for those who enjoy nipple torture, anal training, etc. I want to expand your minds and save you some cash… so you can use it to call me to try out all your goodies, lol. That’s not too much to ask for, now is it?

My throat has been quite tender the past couple of days and I’ve not been up to indulging myself in too much phone sex pleasure. I’ve been binging on Sartori throat spray hoping I’ll be up to snuff in the morning. If you’ve wanted a call in the past few days and have been unable to catch me on, I’ll be back to my regular schedule tomorrow.

Empress Lauren
1-800-356-6169
empress.lauren@yahoo.com